You do not need to identify as LGBTQ+ to attend or enjoy Pride. Allies — people who support the LGBTQ+ community without being part of it — play an important role in the movement. Your presence at Pride sends a message of solidarity and helps create a world where everyone can live authentically. Here is how to be a thoughtful and respectful ally.
Understand Why You Are There
Pride is first and foremost a space by and for LGBTQ+ people. It was born out of struggle and resistance, and for many participants, attending Pride is a deeply personal and political act. As an ally, your role is to support, not to centre yourself. Be present, be visible in your support, but let LGBTQ+ voices lead the conversation.
This does not mean you should feel unwelcome — quite the opposite. The LGBTQ+ community overwhelmingly appreciates allies who show up with genuine support. Just be mindful of the space you occupy.
Practical Ways to Show Support
- Listen and learn: Pride is a great opportunity to hear stories and perspectives different from your own. Attend panel discussions, visit community stalls and talk to people. Ask questions respectfully.
- Use correct language: If you are unsure about someone's pronouns, simply ask. Use inclusive language. If you make a mistake, correct yourself briefly and move on — no need for lengthy apologies.
- Do not make assumptions: Not everyone at Pride presents in the way you might expect. Gender expression and sexual orientation are diverse. Avoid assumptions about anyone's identity.
- Speak up when it matters: If you witness homophobia, transphobia or harassment — at Pride or anywhere else — use your voice. Allyship is not just about attending events; it is about standing up in everyday life.
- Support LGBTQ+ businesses and organisations: Put your money where your values are. Buy from queer vendors at Pride, donate to LGBTQ+ charities, and support queer-owned businesses year-round.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Well-meaning allies sometimes make missteps. Here are a few things to be aware of:
- Do not treat Pride as a costume party: Dressing up is welcome, but avoid costumes that mock or caricature LGBTQ+ identities. Drag is an art form practised by the queer community — it is not a joke to be imitated carelessly.
- Photography: Always ask before photographing people, especially those who may not be publicly out. Being photographed at Pride and having it shared on social media can have serious consequences for some people.
- Avoid performative allyship: Posting a rainbow flag on Instagram is nice, but real allyship means consistent action — voting for LGBTQ+ inclusive policies, challenging prejudice in your social circles and educating yourself about the issues the community faces.
Allyship Beyond Pride
The most impactful thing you can do as an ally is to carry the spirit of Pride into the other 364 days of the year. Challenge homophobic and transphobic comments when you hear them. Support inclusive policies at your workplace. Educate your children about diverse families and identities. Read books, watch documentaries and follow LGBTQ+ voices on social media to deepen your understanding.
Being an ally is not a label you claim — it is something you practice, every day.